When we believe love is a choice, we become "love-creators." We understand that the "dry seasons" are a natural part of the cycle. Instead of asking, "Do I still feel in love?" we ask, "How can I best love my partner today?" This shifts the power back into our hands, providing a stable foundation that can weather any storm.
In many traditions, the divine act of creation is an act of love. Similarly, when we choose to love, we are "creating" a relationship daily. We are not finding a finished product; we are building a sanctuary through repeated, intentional actions. The Mechanics of the Choice
From a spiritual lens, love is often defined by —a Greek term for unconditional, selfless love. This isn't a love based on the worthiness of the recipient, but on the character of the giver.