How To Win Every Argument Guide

A "win" can also be refusing to participate in a circular, bad-faith argument.

Don't "strawman" (misrepresent) their point to make it look weak. Instead, "steelman" it—restate their argument even better than they did. How to Win Every Argument

Identify the shared goal. "We both want the project to succeed, right? So instead of my way or your way, let's look at this third data point." 6. Know When to Walk Away A "win" can also be refusing to participate

If your goal is to make them say "I was wrong," you will almost always lose. Pride is a powerful motivator. If your goal is to get your way or change their behavior, let them save face. Identify the shared goal

"It seems like we’re just repeating ourselves now. Let’s take a break and circle back when there’s new information." 7. The Ultimate Secret: Define the Win

Ask, "How did you come to that conclusion?" or "What evidence would change your mind?"

People lose arguments because they let the topic drift. If you’re arguing about the dishes, don't let them bring up "that thing you did three years ago."